The question in the title is one that I know I have wondered many times and lately I have realized I am not the only person who wonders that. People may know the facts about someone or even certain events that occured. They may even know how the person felt when things happened or the decision they think the person might make in certain situations. The thing is what really defines if someone knows another person?
There isn't any person I can think of who knows everything about me. Sometimes I wonder if I do even. So back to what constitutes as a person knowing someone. Is it knowing a person's favorite color? Where they were born? Is it knowing what they would do in a certain situation or knowing what their beliefs are? Is it something deeper? Is it a connection that surpasses all of these things?
Honestly I can't tell you what it means to really know someone. There are people I have met and some I have become good friends with. Yet depending on what your definition is of knowing someone is on whether I really know anyone. If your definition is knowing the facts and little details about a person then I would say I don't really know anyone. I would also say that there isn't a person who knows me. Then again if you say knowing someone is a deeper thing something like a connection that allows you to know the person's inner soul. Then I would say there are a few people who know me and there are a few I know.
I will admit I don't know most people's favorite color or where they were born. I am also not good with knowing a lot of the finer details of people's lives. Granted I know stories about every person in my life and I do care about those details. The thing is knowing everything about a person is impossible. You can know the facts and maybe some of the stories of their life, but knowing everything isn't a possibility. The people I feel I know are the ones that I feel comfortable with. The ones I feel I know are the ones that I can share anything with and not worry about being persecuted. They are the people who I know I can trust. The ones who will be there no matter what.
When it comes to the people who know me are the people who know the person I am. They may or may not know my past or what is happening right now in my life, but they know I am a good person. They know that I am not always strong. They are the ones that are always there for me.
Would it be nice to have someone who knew everything I have been through? Yes, it would. The fact of the matter is this. There isn't one single person who knows everything I have been through. There are several people who know pieces of my life. Honestly my sister Ginger and maybe my sister Sandy knows the most about the things that have happened. Mainly due to growing up with me and being the ones that were there most of the time. Even they don't know everything though. My best friend would be the next person who knows the most about me. She may not know all the things that happened before we met or even all the things that occurred after I moved. Yet she knows a lot of the things I have been through. Neither my sister Ginger nor my best friend have ever given up on me or let me disappear. That means a lot to me. It wasn't easy for either of them to stay in touch with me. Probably it was easier for my sister than Marie, but the fact is this they both made an effort to stay in touch with me. Even the times I wanted to disappear they didn't let me. They were there the whole time. That is a great feeling to know someone cares that much.
I hope everyone has someone that knows them on that deeper level. Oh and if you want people to know your story there is only one way to have them know. Tell them. If they care about you. Really care they will listen and even better they will want to know.
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