Mistakes? What are those?

We all have made mistakes. Some of those mistakes are made due to not having enough information at the time, sometimes we make them due to our current mind set, and sometimes we just aren't perfect.

I have made all kinds of mistakes in my life. Honestly I wouldn't be surprised to find out that there are mistakes out there that I don't even know I made. The point is this. . . . . . . .  Everyone makes mistakes it doesn't matter what path lead us to those mistakes what does matter is how we chose to handle the knowledge of those mistakes that matters. People can chose to wallow in their mistakes. They can chose to let those mistakes control them. Then there is the chose to stand up, dust yourself off, learn from the mistake, and move on.

As I said I have made a lot of mistakes in my life and I do mean a lot. I would say most of my mistakes probably were made due to caring about people to much or being afraid of getting hurt. Many people make mistakes for these same reasons. At least that is most of the people I have met have.

There is a family I know that has 4 daughters and a son. Ok. This family is mine, but the point is this. Each one of us is completely different and handles our problems and mistakes differently. I won't try to speak for any of them, because it isn't my place. Also doing so might end up being a mistake that I once again would have to face and deal with.  Since I don't want to deal with arguing or hurting any of my family who I love I will try to explain my point without going to far into detail about anyone except myself. Every person handles their mistakes differently. This is true even in families. Often I have wondered how children from the same parents who grew up in the same home can be so different. Sometimes I even wonder how I can be related to my siblings. This isn't just some of them. There have been times with all of them that I wondered how are we related?

When I was younger and I made a mistake I use to dwell on it. The mistakes seemed like they were the worst thing that could have ever happened. As I got older I started realizing everyone makes mistakes. That isn't to say that I got any easier on myself. Instead I got tougher on myself for a long time. Once you hit your teen years the mistakes get bigger and involve more people. It doesn't matter how hard you try to prevent making mistakes or how you try to pick a part the mistakes. Finally after years of spending time trying to figure myself out and beating myself up emotionally I realized no matter what Idid it was the past. There was no way I could fix it. All I could do was accept the mistake was made, learn from the mistake, pray and hope I never made them again, and remember what happened. You see forgetting what happened opens the door for the same mistake to happen again. The key is not to dwell on the mistake and to find peace with the fact it happened. Yes, pain may have been involved in the mistake. A big hole may even be left in your heart or soul or maybe your body depending on the mistake. The point is that dwelling on anything you can't change will only hurt you. It won't fix what happened. Dwelling on it doesn't change that it happened. This goes from walking away from someone you loved, because you didn't realize it at the time. It encompasses the mistake of deciding to cheat on someone who loves you whether it was a kiss or more planned or not. Including making the decision to push your loved one to walk away from someone they cared about and looked up to. This isn't to say anyone who got hurt by your decision will forgive you or want you back in their life. What I am saying is that you can pick yourself up. You can forgive yourself. You can learn from your mistake. You can prevent yourself from making that same mistake again. The other option is to hate yourself, grow bitter, and live a miserable life where you will continue making more mistakes. The choice is yours. I am choosing to pick myself up, stop beating myself up over what I can't change, and to learn from my mistakes so that I won't make them again. I hope you already figured all this out or if you haven't will stop hurting yourself over those mistakes. Now for me to learn how to tell when someone lies to me and when they are telling the truth. Any ideas? For until next time I hope you found something useful or at least entertaining here.