Married/Old. Why?

Just like any girl I like to have someone notice me. It isn't a matter of the age of the guy as long as it is done respectfully. The problem I do have and I know other women have a problem with is married guys making passes at them. It is one thing to compliment a woman it is another thing to be disrespectful to your spouse. Another thing that just irritates me is the older guy who is creepily staring at a younger woman and acting all wacked out when  trying to get the girls attention. I don't mind an older guy asking me out or giving me a compliment as long as it is done respectfully. I get it old men need love to, but acting creepy and perverse isn't the way to get it.

So here are my thoughts about married men or women making passes at other people. It is rude and disrespectful to your partner. The worst part is most of those same people would get mad if their spouse did the same thing. What is up with that? Also when a guy makes a pass at me and I know or find out he is married it is an insult to me. That is saying you think I am trashy enough that I would sleep with someone else's man. I have more respect for myself and for other human beings then to do that knowingly. Another thing about it is that most of them aren't even sneaky about it. Which now adds to the insult to their spouse. Now you aren't just saying that they aren't good enough for you to love them  and only them now you are saying they are to stupid to find out what you are doing. Honestly this day and age if you want to cheat and do it smart it is easier then any other time. There are services such as Ashley Madison that will set you up with other people who want the same thing and they will help prevent you from getting caught. I don't agree with these services, but at least you won't be insulting me with your advances if you go that way. Honestly why get married if you can't handle the commitment that goes with it. Just remain single if that is what you want. If you got married and found out you couldn't be faithful then do that person a favor and get a divorce or have an open marriage. Just leave me out of the equation please. 

As for the creepy old men. Like I said I have no problem with an older man noticing me. It actually is a high compliment in my opinion when given in an appropriate manner. Yet when a guy is creepily staring at me  and it doesn't matter his age it just makes me wonder if he is planning on kidnapping me and killing me. Sorry that is the thought that crosses my mind. Also if the guy seems to be obsessed enough to move closer to me for no reason and even worse follow me some when I try to move away. Even creepier. Please guys do yourself and us  women a favor. Don't stare. Look at us fine,but look a way at times. If you want to talk to us don't follow us just wait for an oppertunity to come up or come introduce yourself. Even if we aren't interested at least we won't be wondering if you are planning our demise. Seriously I think this probably could go for some women as well, but not being a guy I am not sure if women do this. I have had friends who came close to such actions and I wondered about their sanity.  It is alright to go to a place you saw someone in hopesto see them and talk to them. Again though it is not alright to follow them if they move away from you or to stare none stop at them. Talk to them or take glances at them that is fine. Staring is a little creepy when you don't know someone and  so is being followed.

The reason I bring this up is I have found several things to be very consistant in my life. One is married guys or guys in relationships seem to think I will be interested in them or will look past their relationship. This was true even when I was a virgin. I am not sure why and if anyone could please shed some light on it for me I would appreciate it. The other is older men seem to be obsessed with me. Like I said I find it a compliment if an older man compliments me appropriately. Then again I take it as a  compliment if a woman asks me out even though I am straight. It is a matter  of the delivery and the way they accept my reaction to it that makes a difference. So why do I always get the creepy old guys and the married/in a relationship guys who want to hit on me? Why is it I rarely get a single guy, who has a job, wants a committed relationship with  a possiblility of marriage and family that is close to my age? Am I  doing something  wrong or is that just my lot in life?  I have had this problem a really long time. Is it I am in the wrong places and if so where  should I go? I really would like to understand this. I believe I am a nice person, with a good job, who believes in God, is committed to her relationships when she is in one, and I believe I am fairly good looking. So what is the deal?  I see people who have less then these things married and happy. Yet I have a hard  time finding a good man. I am not the only female that has this problem and even some of the men I know have this problem as well. I  am not saying I haven't had a few nice guys make passes at me. I have. The problem  is the only ones I  have known recently either wanted to play while they decided what they wanted. Which doesn't work for me. If you want to date other people then don't sleep with me, be honest about it, and you can do what you want. If you want to sleep with me and have me stick around then there better not be anyone else. I don't work that way. Sex isn't just sex for me. It is something special that should be earned not given. It should be something between two people not more then two. That is what it is for me. I am fine with if others feel different for them, but that isn't me. The other guys  were  ones that their personality and mine wouldn't have meshed  well. The point  is I wish people who are in a relationhip  would be faithful and creepy guys would stop being so creepy. I wish the decent guys who are single would show an interest in me and  that people would realize sex is great, but there are things in a relationship that are better and  will  last longer.  That thing is called love and love isn't based on sex. It  is based on something  way deeper. It  is that look and feeling that never fades. If you don't believe me then ask anyone who met my Mother's parents. They will tell you that look never faded in their eyes. Never not even after 60 some odd years.